For all of us. We're born into a world that's completely new and uncertain. From day one, our only aim is to survive as best we can. As infants, our only survival tool is our cry and we use it to get the things we need. As we age and develop, we learn how to interact with our surroundings and identify new ways of communicating and meeting our survival needs. They show us which people are most important to our survival, which are detrimental, and how to successfully meet our most vital requirements. Soon, we figure out crucial ways to gain pleasure and avoid pain, as life's puzzle pieces start to fall into place and your world view begins to take shape. Understanding that certain actions get certain results, you build a case for how the world responds to certain behaviours and actions. As children we learn , "If I do this, I get food" "If I do that I get in trouble" "When I do this, I get love and attention" "When I do that, I feel pain" and so on as we continue to understand how our world and the people in it work. We adapt our actions and behaviours to the environment and begin to collect beliefs, judgements, fears, and perspectives. But the thing is, a child isn't born with the same capacity for reasoning, logical thinking, problem solving and comprehension that an adult carries with them after years of experience. So as life continues to happen, we are creating our model of the world with an undeveloped level of thinking. We judge our world, the people in it, events, situations, our experiences and especially ourselves with a mind that hasn't evolved enough to be able to identify what is real. Then all we are left with to navigate life is a distorted version of the experience of life that tends to create problems, frustrations, confusions and chaos later in life. And the we wonder WHY? Failed relationships, low performance, poor self image, dis-ease and poor health, anxiety and depression are but a few of the very common reactions to having developed an internal map that doesn't contain an accurate representation of what's real. But it doesn't have to end there....
You can create a new map.
IF YOU ARE...
LOOKING TO MOVE BEYOND YOUR CURRENT WAY OF BEING,
COMMITTED TO BREAKING THROUGH YOUR MOST PRESSING CONSTRAINTS,
WILLING TO START BEING HONEST ABOUT WHERE YOU'RE AT AND CLEAR ON WHERE AND WHO YOU WANT TO BE,
DEVOTED TO INVESTING WHAT IS NEEDED FROM YOU TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU DESIRE,
READY TO BEGIN TAKING FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE...
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Brendan Mann is one of the most caring, sensitive, genuine people I know. He truly cares about other people’s happiness and well being. Over the last 6 months I went through some trying times. I would say one of the darkest roads I have had to face in my entire life. Therapy, books, councillors and medication wasn’t enough to pull me out of this dark place. I tried many avenues to get myself into a better place but nothing seemed to work. One day out of the blue Brendan asked me how my day was going, normally I would fib and say it was ok, this time I didn’t. I opened up and allowed myself to be vulnerable. Today, I can say that was the best thing I could have done for myself. Without hesitation Brendan starting asking me many questions. He never told me what I should or shouldn’t be doing, he just continued asking me questions that forced me to look deep within. These questions were very self focused questions that took me hours if not days to digest. Brendan taught me that all the answers to my questions were deep within me and I held the key to unlocking the answers. He helped me to see who my true self is by encouraging me to look deep within and understand who I truly am and not who I think I should be. With Brendan’s guidance, today I live a healthier, happier, more fulfilled life and I will forever be grateful for this loving human being, Brendan! He helped me to see the light of my very dark tunnel.
I was living an alright life. I had been coasting through, thinking I was happy and fulfilled. But after a couple rapid unforeseen events that upended my life, I began spiraling down mentally and physically. I tried several self help books but nothing really worked. Then I stumbled upon Brendan at Rectify and he really gave the time to listen and make me feel important. His advice and coaching was a major catalyst to me getting my life back. He's not going to do it for you, you're going to have to be willing to work on yourself, not just looking for an easy patch solution, but he, through his experience and skills will be able to give you the tools to transform your life.
I have been working with Brendan for over a year now. Before we stared to working together I didn't know who I was or what my worth/purpose was in life. I was completely lost and even broke down in tears the first time we spoke. From then until now, I have completely changed as a person. I have realized that it is not always about me and with every challenge there is a solution. Where I used to react with rage or dissatisfaction, now I analyze before I react. What is the situation? Can I make a change? What is the end game? Is it worth it or do I let it go? I have come to the conclusion that some things I need to let go of and the things I want to figure out or change, I work on them and what they will look like. I am only responsible for myself. Without change, I am the walking dead. People are going through more than we know sometimes. Ask the right questions. Now, I strive to be the person who keeps calm and comes up with changes and solutions for every situation or crisis that may arise. I am responsible for myself and my happiness. I have so much love for you, Brendan. You have completely changed the way I think, act and react. I couldn't have done it without you!
After accomplishing myself and reaching a great professional level in my life, I decided to build a family but things quickly ended up with a separation which truly got to me on a deep level. So I reached to Brendan from Rectify.
First he listened to me, and asked me many many questions which forced me to truly reflect on the events and my actions. I had to be completely honest with myself and with my answers, and this honesty paid off.
My perception quickly went from a negative emotionally fueled perception, to a positive and useful perception. I understood how pointless it was to stay angry...because I was only hurting myself more and more. This simple and true understanding on my inner state was a pivotal moment where I stopped to put more and more on my own shoulders.
Brendan truly listened to me, he asked me the right questions and together we advanced toward a place of understanding and acceptance with my life situation. I also learned about relationship and how poor my listening/communication were.
Brendan helped me understand that everything begins with me, and that it is where I have the most influence... I cannot control and change everyone around me, but if I have the strength to be truly honest with me, I can change my inner state, and this is where Brendan was a true guide.
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